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The Call for Unity

During a separation and divorce it is easy to forget about the young lives trapped between warring parents. Even the most amicable separations can cause trauma and upset in the shared children. However as our society learns to deal with a more common problem, so too are we learning the best ways to cope. Parents need to be supported during separation so that they can fully support their children, and we can do this together.

As part of Family Mediation Week Fegans have partnered with Wells Family Mediation to produce a ‘Unity’ video, to raise awareness of the importance of staying together as parents, even when you break up as partners. The benefits on the whole family unit are incredible.

For more help on how to parent through separation click here.


Fegans’ Parents Talks were introduced in 2016 as a local support resource to parents in the South East. Due to their success Fegans are pleased to announce three specific parenting  talks this Spring as part of our ‘Seasons of Change’ Exhibition and campaign: The Confident Child, Your Child Online, and After the Split.

As a response to feedback from these talks we will also be introducing parenting ‘drop in’ sessions at the Tunbridge Wells Museum and Art Gallery. For more information on each  talk and to book a place please see below, and sign up to our mailing list for news on upcoming events and information in your area.

The Confident Child

The confident child: Wednesday 14th March

Building confidence and resilience in your child


Vicky Bellman

Isobel MacDougall

External Speaker from charity BEAT


7.30pm – 9pm

St John’s Church, Amherst Road, Tunbridge Wells, TN4 9LG

Your child online:

Your child online: Wednesday 9th May

Practical techniques for online safety


Sarah Ingram : Fegans Head of Parenting and Development

Cathy Hampson : Fegans Cousellor

External Speakers: TBC


7.30pm – 9pm

St John’s Church, Amherst Road, Tunbridge Wells, TN4 9LG

After the split
After the split: Wednesday 23rd May  Successful strategies for co-parenting after separation Speakers: Isobel MacDougall: Fegans’ Parenting Support Worker Cathy Hampson: Fegans’ Counsellor External Speaker: Helen Adams from Wells Family Mediation BOOK NOW
7.30pm – 9pm St John’s Church, Amherst Road, Tunbridge Wells, TN4 9LG

restored lives

The Restored Lives Course is for anyone struggling after a breakup or seeking practical support, giving anyone who has been impacted by the end of a serious relationship the opportunity to discuss the challenges they are facing and the tools to deal with these effectively. These include:

Facing the effects of separation and divorce, the importance of good communication, forgiveness, resolving conflict, the impact of breakdown on other relationships, legal issues, parenting issues and moving forward with hope.

Each session begins with a meal followed by a talk, with opportunities for discussion in small groups. The small groups are led by people who have gone through divorce themselves. The setting is welcoming, relaxed and unthreatening. The next course is in Sevenoaks and costs £30 for six sessions – this includes course materials and supper each week. There are some bursaries available to assist with the course fees and babysitting costs. Please visit: facebook.com/restoredlivessevenoaks/