Will you stand with us this Christmas?
Read Emily's* Story
The children that Fegans counsellors work with each day are a constant inspiration to me, as a Christian, a parent and as a professional therapist.
“It’s okay, let it all out,” I say calmly. Emily* has ‘held it together’ for seven days and nights since our last session together and as she steps into the safe haven of the counselling room she is no longer able to contain her emotions. Emily releases her heavy burdens through fast falling tears and even faster tumbling words.
I feel privileged to be able to listen to Emily as she bravely talks about the trauma she has faced and the distress she continues to battle each day.
I do not judge as Emily shows me the cuts she has made on her arms again, I know it is her way of coping, we are working on that, and she knows that my priority is to ensure her safety.
I listen with compassion and accompany Emily on an emotional journey to re-discover the girl she used to be and learn to feel good about herself again. This is her fourth session and I am seeing progress, Emily is now able to talk about her traumatic experiences and is willing to try some of the coping strategies we have discussed.
Thanks to your generosity I know that Emily can and will recover. I do not want this strong 13 year old girl to become another suicide statistic, which is why the work that Fegans does transforms lives and inspires lives, mine included.
What saddens me is that the number of children in desperate need of our professional support is rapidly rising. The high costs of private therapy and reduced NHS funding means that without your generous donations to charities such as Fegans it would be hard for Emily to find the support she needs.
Fegans has a growing list of children waiting for our help. With your support we can reach them sooner. Your kind donation will enable us to move a traumatised child from our waiting list into the safety of our counselling room. Your support ensures we can begin their journey of recovery when they so desperately need it, not when it is too late.
Your donation can help a child like Emily to recover from trauma and live a hope filled life.
Wishing you a peaceful Christmas and a joyous New Year
Mary Fowlie, Head of Counselling, Fegans
*name changed for client confidentiality
This Christmas hundreds of vulnerable children will be trying to cope with abuse and trauma alone. We are making a Christmas plea to our wonderful supporters, to stand with us and donate however much you can, so that we can contact vulnerable children on our waiting list to say there is a place for them in 2018 with Fegans, a place where they do not have to suffer alone, where they can heal and find hope in their future…
Your donation will make a real difference to the lives of vulnerable children and families. Whether it is £5 or £500, monthly or a one-off, your contribution is valued and appreciated.
By setting up a monthly donation to Fegans, we can plan continued support for the children and families who need our services.
The bursary has meant that I have been able to keep working with a teenage girl suffering chronic anxiety and OCD at a time when her father lost his job. Without the bursary my client wouldn’t have been able to receive the counselling support she needed due to circumstances outside her control.
The bursary has meant that a mother in an abusive relationship has been able to access counselling at a time when funds for this were denied her at home. Her counselling has given her the courage and self belief to remove herself and her children from a destructive environment. All are now enjoying a new found freedom and security.
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Children like Ben need us now
Read Ben's* Story
Aggressive behaviour towards his classmates prompted Ben’s* primary school to contact Fegans. In the first session the counsellor discovered nine year old Ben was also self-harming, using sharp plastic to mark his upper arms and legs. Ben was clearly distressed; the counsellor used art therapy, talking and role play to help identify the root cause of his behaviour.
As the bond between Ben and his counsellor grew he felt able to disclose the disturbing details of his home life. The physical and emotional abuse he was regularly suffering at the hands of his step-father made it clear he was in immediate danger.
The counsellor quickly implemented the Fegans’ safeguarding process, involving social services to protect Ben from further harm.
Throughout the turbulent aftermath in Ben’s home life, Ben’s counsellor remained his steady constant. Working with Ben, the counsellor slowly built his self-esteem and confidence by working with Ben to process his trauma and his feelings of worthlessness and fear.
Five months on, the counselling sessions have ended and Ben is back at home. His step-father is no longer in his life and his Mum continues to receive support for her issues and to improve her parenting. Ben’s school reports ‘…he is a calmer boy now and has begun to make a few close friends. His school work has improved too. The transformation is remarkable. It makes us so happy to see the positive impact Fegans has made in Ben’s life.’
*name has been changed for client confidentiality.